First, you have to find out what/where it is not.
We learned this technique from Dr. Marlene Mulder, a former German Children's Surgeon, at Randal Churchill's graduate school in Corte Madera.
If a client requests a consult to find something that is missing, the neuro-linguistics, is to ask them where it is not.
The subconscious mind, drops the "not". If the "problem" fails to be an organic issue (i.e. damage to a lobe of the brain, a specific disorder, or failure to form or retain memories due to substances), then often, it ends up being (a) behavioral issue - i.e. the person has habits/patterns where they're not remembering, and this is always for a reason; (b) it may be learned and protective, whether un/conscious or not.
People always protect themselves. So when you ask them where it is "not", they KNOW. They'll say: Oh! It wasn't in the passenger seat when I got in my car. It wasn't by the side table before I left the house. This will continue, until they'll place that which is lost, either in the un/conscious mind, whether by un/conscious thought, or even when dreaming. Then, once placed, the physical object will "show-up". I.e. the individual will know where to find it, or know who to ask.
It's a fun, "game". A technique involving "finding", where people hate work, but love discoveries.
This strategy not only works in finding lost objects, the linguistics of it work when interviewing people to ascertain truths vs untruths. Micro-expression, unconscious behaviors, and linguistic tells, even if "practiced" (i.e. a lie), always reveal the truth, to the trained expert.
This technique can be used when recovering old memories, and when adding to your repertoire when learning new things. I.e. If you're a professional, and re-certifying for something.
The first place to look, is for where it is not.
Have fun with your discoveries this week!
And with upcoming family celebrations, feel free to remember, that we start to have fun, when we drop into inquiry and exploration. Instead of assuming, stop and ask, "what don't I know", and "how can I explore". It's like being a little kid, and you're on vacation, at a new playground. You want to see, taste, touch, everything, and run around until you happily collapse into a joyful bundle.
We learned this technique from Dr. Marlene Mulder, a former German Children's Surgeon, at Randal Churchill's graduate school in Corte Madera.
If a client requests a consult to find something that is missing, the neuro-linguistics, is to ask them where it is not.
The subconscious mind, drops the "not". If the "problem" fails to be an organic issue (i.e. damage to a lobe of the brain, a specific disorder, or failure to form or retain memories due to substances), then often, it ends up being (a) behavioral issue - i.e. the person has habits/patterns where they're not remembering, and this is always for a reason; (b) it may be learned and protective, whether un/conscious or not.
People always protect themselves. So when you ask them where it is "not", they KNOW. They'll say: Oh! It wasn't in the passenger seat when I got in my car. It wasn't by the side table before I left the house. This will continue, until they'll place that which is lost, either in the un/conscious mind, whether by un/conscious thought, or even when dreaming. Then, once placed, the physical object will "show-up". I.e. the individual will know where to find it, or know who to ask.
It's a fun, "game". A technique involving "finding", where people hate work, but love discoveries.
This strategy not only works in finding lost objects, the linguistics of it work when interviewing people to ascertain truths vs untruths. Micro-expression, unconscious behaviors, and linguistic tells, even if "practiced" (i.e. a lie), always reveal the truth, to the trained expert.
This technique can be used when recovering old memories, and when adding to your repertoire when learning new things. I.e. If you're a professional, and re-certifying for something.
The first place to look, is for where it is not.
Have fun with your discoveries this week!
And with upcoming family celebrations, feel free to remember, that we start to have fun, when we drop into inquiry and exploration. Instead of assuming, stop and ask, "what don't I know", and "how can I explore". It's like being a little kid, and you're on vacation, at a new playground. You want to see, taste, touch, everything, and run around until you happily collapse into a joyful bundle.
